Mar had her first meet on the Aces swim team Friday. It was a "developmental" meet, which means it was only for Aces (no other teams present), and was mainly to obtain official times for the beginning of the season. Shilo selected NOT to participate (despite overt parental encouragement), which we she later regretted, as it would have been a good indicator of the improvement needed to achieve her time goals for the high school season. I tried.
Mar packed up her things and we were off to the meet. I thought we were prepared (this wasn't our first rodeo, you know). When we arrived, the pool area was packed, and finding a seat was a challenge. Finally we selected a middle row spot on metal bleachers at the end of the pool lanes. There was a towel reserving the bench in front of us, and one or two people sitting on the back row behind us, but it seemed our roomiest option.
The call for warm-ups came, and suddenly Mar was in a panic. She had not packed goggles. The girl who meticulously makes sure that she has two pair with her at all times for practices ("just in case"), had missed them in the bag changeover. Shilo could only find one girl she knew (the majority of older swimmers had selected, as Shi, not to participate in this particular meet), and asked if she had an extra pair. No.
Mar started panicking and the tears began to fall.
Trying to disguise her emotional state, Mar rubbed her eyes, then suddenly had a contact issue. It needed to come out, but we were unprepared and did not have solution for rinsing. I told her that we could rinse it with water and try putting it back in, but that it would probably be really uncomfortable for a few minutes (I speak from a lifetime of experience). We tried it (freaking out the people sitting behind us) only to have our attempt fail. The contact buckled and needed to be immediately removed once again. Mar determined that she would just go without it, the panic from not having goggles overtaking her fear of not being able to see clearly out of one eye. The anxiety for both of us was at highly elevated levels.
I walked over with her to the group of girls gathered for warm-ups and asked if any of them had an extra pair of goggles. They all said yes, but one girl moved to action as she walked us over to where her mother was sitting. She pulled out a stash of goggles and handed us a pair, telling us to come try another pair if they didn't work. Mar grabbed the goggles and ran to join the warm-ups.
As I watched her, I could tell the goggles were not going to work. At the end of each lane she would stop, lift the goggles, and dump out the excess water. Finally Shi spotted a family of swimmers she knew would have a plethora of good-quality goggles, and ran over to borrow a pair. Relief swept over me as she walked toward our spot on the bleachers, goggles in hand. They were easily adjusted and worked perfectly. Phew.
During this time of stress, more people continued to join us on the bleachers. The single towel reserving the bench area in front of us became home to a very large man (in a heavy winter coat), his two twin daughters, a baby carrier with a very, very newborn baby, and his 11 year-old swimmer son. His wife and the grandparents squeezed in on the front row. Of course, the man sat directly in front of me, requiring the uncomfortable knees-to-the-side position for the entire meet (not to mention those metal bleachers made my forever-recovering tailbone ache like crazy). The bench behind us also filled up with a loud-talking woman, her husband, and equally-as-loud swimmer daughter. As soon as the meet was about to start, the woman decided that she would take a Subway run, and, after taking orders, needed to get down from the bleachers, borrowing shoulders as we squished together to create enough room for her foot as she stepped down through the crowd.
Needless to say, it was not our best meet experience.
The good news:
Britta and Austin, visiting for the weekend, came to support Mar (I wasn't necessarily expecting them to attend the meet, so we had NOT reserved seats - they ended up slightly to the right and down on the front row of the bleachers)
You guys are the best!
the 2nd pair of goggles worked great
the large man in front of me was friendly (it was their first Aces meet, too)
the loud woman and her husband behind us had a conversation about Mormons (Mitt-inspired, I'm sure) and had positive things to say
Mar swam her three events with courage and vigor, and now has official times to show future improvement
After the meet, we met up with Bill, who had been at the temple a few blocks away, and had all-you-can-eat pizza at Cici's
I am so proud of Mauri for making it through the drama and doing her best.
Love you, Mar! You are awesome!