A few things I've learned from my first week of employment:
1. Be firm and in control. I've found that I ask too many questions, like, "Will you please pick that up?" and "Can you keep your hands to yourself please?" After getting a few too many NO's (verbal and non), I realized what I was doing. I watched the seasoned professionals around me. They demanded, not asked, but in a nice sort of way. "Pick that up, my friend, or you will not get choice time today" and "You are in _________'s personal space. Please keep your hands to yourself." I think this technique will come in handy someday. If it's too late to work on my kids, I'll use it on the grandkids, or maybe a dog.
Britta in Kindergarten... such a totally awesome age.
2. We are teaching children to be independent, not dependent. Since I work with a couple of special needs kids, I am soooooooo tempted to just lend a helping hand. You know, carry stuff for them, put stuff away for them, and pretty much do whatever I can to make life easier for them. But I have been reminded that the
real purpose is to help them learn to do it themselves. It's a tricky thing, since I don't want to add to any discouragement they may already feel. They
are only kindergartners, after all, and they still have a long road ahead. Then I come home to my fully functioning children, who are perfectly capable of doing many (if not
all) things for themselves, and who, for some reason, think mother should pick up their stuff, put their stuff away, and pretty much act as a personal assistant. I've been an enabler. But not for long. This can be changed. This can be corrected. Starting asap.
Mauri at her Kindergarten meet-the-teacher with Mrs. Klenovich, who will very likely be Mauri's 5th grade teacher next year as well. From personal experience, I think she's probably better at teaching older kids. I'm trying to keep an open mind about it all.
3. Children are exhausting. Even though my hours couldn't be any more perfect than they are, I still come home feeling like I just spent 3 hours in the nursery at church. And if you recall, I
do spend just under 2 hours in the nursery every Sunday, so I know what I'm talking about. For the past year and a half I have come home from church
ready for a nap. And work's about the same, although I've only taken one nap all week, since I still have my mom duties that need to be performed. Needless to say, I'm ready for bed every night at 9.
Mauri's first day of Kindergarten.
4. Casual Fridays are alive and well. Only I didn't get the memo. In fact, I haven't been trained at all, just thrown into the non-stop mix of students, teachers, and class schedules. So far it's been a learn-as-you-go job. But I'm intelligent (I keep reminding myself) and experienced with children (or so I thought), I'm sure I'll pick it all up eventually. Official school district training happens this upcoming Wednesday, so hopefully I will feel informed on things like time clocks, expectations, and school dress policy. And if you were wondering, yes, I was
totally overdressed today. Every teacher I saw was in jeans and tee shirts, and there I was in my dry-clean-only dress pants, a nice pol
yester top layered over a shade shirt, and heels. Short heels, but heels. While out at recess, a fellow SSN EA (Specialized Severe Needs Educational Assistant) said, "You look so nice today." I couldn't tell if she was mocking me, or just politely bringing up the subject so she could discreetly inform me that it's okay to dress down... at least on Fridays. Next week, I'll be wearing jeans. Or leggings. Something
obviously casual.
Ready to head into class. Favoritism again, you ask? No, just the only pics on file. SOMEDAY I'll get a boatload of scanning done, I promise.
5. Not all music teachers can sing. I'm sure the male music teacher at the particular school I work at is musically inclined in
some way, but after a week of music time, I have yet to see it. I'm not sure he can even carry a tune. We sang the longest rendition
ever of
I Saw A Bear (thanks to the assistance of an accompanying picture book, that stretched it farther than I've ever imagined possible) TWICE this week. I'm trying to cut him some slack, since he
is working with new kindergarteners, but it's a hint something's off when several kids cover their ears and cringe when he sings. His singing voice is
extremely high for a man. Maybe that's what got him the job.
There you have it, the nuts and bolts of the new information I've collected this week. I'm learning. I really hope to be the best darn SSN EA ever.
Aim high, that's my motto (not to be confused with my Git 'er done
mantra).
And a funny side note from yesterday: at the "family meeting" during Back-to-School night Mauri said,
"Mr. Legg controls everything. He practically runs the school."
Mr. Legg is on the left, Mr. Muma is on the right. Who is in control?
The funny part: Mr. Legg is the librarian, Mr. Muma is the principal.